Thursday, September 28, 2006


Life is changing so quickly.. Current mood: blah
Sorry these have been kinda morbid lately but this is real life. Last year one of my co-workers lost a very young (in her 30's) neighbor to Breast Cancer. She left behind a young daughter and a grieving husband. Her husband could never shake the loss of his wife. Almost 2 weeks ago he decided that he could no longer live without her. He took his life by jumping off of a local causeway. Now a little girl is left without both of her parents. She will never attend a father daughter dance, No mommy to brush her hair and tell her how beautiful she is, she will never know what it is to have a little brother or sister to show the ropes. What did these wonderful people do to be taken from this world so early in such a painful way. This little girl may be too young to remember her mother and may only remember a grieving suffering father. She luckly have wonderful grandparents and neighbors that can tell her wonderful lively stories of her parents so that she may remember the good and block out the bad.
We always think things are bad when we have hit a rough patch in life. but how bad are things really???? We have been dealt a bad hand but things can change for us we just have to make the choice to change it. I have a co-worker who just over 3 months ago was told that she has bladder cancer. She was told that she needed to stop smoking because that increases her chance of it return. (FYI SMOKERS you can also get bladder cancer from you cigarettes) She has tried to stop smoking but she has not put her heart into it. She still occasionally smoke. She has made the choice to continue puffing away. But when she was diagnosised she wondered why me.. Because you made the choice to smoke with stacked the deck against her and she continues to do it. She sees all this women dealing with cancer every day and she continues to raise her recurrence risk.. Why do people not think and realized how ver luck they are to have a second chance.

Life is too short...
Do you ever really sit down and think really how short life really is??? Our parents can't wait to hear our first words or watch our first steps. We rush to get through school. Then we rush to get through college and buy our first beer. Then it is the rush to find our true love, settle down and start a family. About 4 weeks ago a one of our maternity patients was diagnosis with Metastatic Melanoma. She is 36 years old and 16 weeks pregnant. Two weeks after the diagnosis she is no longer pregnant and fighting for her life. She has cancer throughout her body, ie brain, liver, lungs and bones. She is has not only lost her child, she is a battle for her life. She has not gotten to see the world, be a mother grow old with the man she loves, she will never see her grandchildren and her mother will have to bury her child. Her husband has not only lost his child but has been told he is going to have to bury his wife. They probably had dreams of growing old together, seeing there daughter walk down the isle to start her own family or their son make the winning touch down. After watching this poor family go through this I realized that you can not live in fear you have to do as you want and not be afraid to do it. If you want to see the world make it happen. Just go for it. It may not be cancer that takes your life early, it could be a natural disaster or a motor vehicle accident. Life is just to short. Total food for thought..
*****Update to original post*****
She is a mother of 2 (a boy and girl) and this was a baby suprise (a happy accident)

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